I've known this friend ever since she was born as our families grew up together. Her and her sisters are like family to us and she is going through a really tough time at the moment and I am constantly thinking about her but have no idea how to help her.
About a week ago her second daughter was born at just 25 weeks into her pregnancy. I have no experience whatsoever with a premmie baby and cannot even begin to try and understand what pain and heartache she is going through.
Yes Cadel has health issues and has his own diagnosis that scares us everyday and makes my heartbreak every time I look at him playing and giggling with his brother and sister but at least I know (well sort of) what's going on.
My friend has been sent home already from the hospital, while her baby fights away in the NICU, how hard would that be to leave your tiny little baby who needs so much help. I know that she is in the best of care but as a mother you just want to fix things and know what's going on, that's why I'm lucky to be able to stay with Cadel when he is admitted and we are able to always able to know what's going on ( well, most of the time!)
To not even know what sort of effect if any the early birth will have on this precious pink bundle must feel unfair and scary. To try and explain everything about what's going on to her older daughter who is only young would be tough too. To function as a person and as a mother in the real world but making the time to sit and wish to hold your newborn, another tough task.
I'm always thinking of you my friend and wish there were something I could do to make it all better.
I would like my friend to know that I wish her to have the power of advancing time. I wish we could fast forward and they could be home enjoying their new little baby and not have to sit and listen and watch those blinking numbers on the monitors that tower over the precious little body. I also wish you my friend strength. You will need it I'm sure as you watch your little one fight and to guide you through tough times ahead. Also if I have learnt anything from Cadel's health issues it is to lean on the people around you. You can only be strong for so long. Don't see it as a weakness but more as a way to regather and draw more strength.
For the little one I wish health, healing and time. I wish her the best medical team to help her grow big and strong and be the best person she can be. I also wish her strength. Strength to fight. Fight to be home and to get to know her big sister, her Mum and Dad and her Aunties, Uncles cousins and Grandparents.
Fight and be strong little one and soon we will meet you.